3 Self-Pleasure Tips
In my thirty-one years of living in this fat Black body of mine, I have realized that sexuality can be such a hard thing to grasp when you are someone who is hypervisible yet invisible all at once. This has made me want to dig deep and explore all depths of my identity, especially my sexual self. If you’re a fat femme who wants to explore their sexuality or enhance their solo sessions, hello, nice to meet ya! I am so glad we crossed paths. Here are 3 tips that will not only help you connect with your inner sexual self, but also give you one, two, hey, maybe even more orgasms.
1. Journal
When we think of self-pleasure, we tend to think of the outcome and not so much of the process behind it. Like any good project manager would tell you, the details matter. Taking the time to reflect on your past experiences will help you gain a deeper understanding of your body and improve your next solo session. If you have never masturbated before, I encourage you to reflect on any fantasies that come to mind.
Questions to ask yourself?
*Were there any areas of the body that felt the most stimulated? Why? Was there any particular motion or sensation that stood out?
*Was there an area of the body that felt the least? Why? What would you do differently next time?
2. Temperature play
For those who don’t know, temperature play is all about exploring the sensations of hot and cold on the body to stimulate yourself. It’s a personal favorite of mine because it allows you to be creative with unexplored areas. Are you someone who enjoys hot or cold sensations? To find out, you can start with very basic household items like hot and cold water.
Things to try
*Crack a window open and let the cool air stimulate your body
*Try splashing some warm or cold water on your body
Just a heads up…
Because temperature play can be quite a shock if you aren’t prepared, it is important to build expectations. Before you start, imagine what the feeling will be like, and then go further and imagine how it will feel as you climax.
3. Add foreplay to your meditation
Ooof, I cannot stress this one enough. There are so many benefits to this. Meditation will not only help you relax your muscles, but it will also give you a more enjoyable climax! Before you introduce your sex toy, lay down (naked if you’d like) and close your eyes for five-ten minutes.
As you lay there take a few deep breaths in and out. While you breathe in, think about where you would like to be touched and how you want to be touched. As you breathe out, slowly move your hands to where you want to be touched and gently trace that area with your fingertips. The more breaths you take, recognize how your body is feeling.
Questions to ask yourself
*How turned on am I?
*What's my breathing like?
*Am I beginning to moan?
Troubleshooting
**If you try any of these recommendations and feel like you're not having a pleasurable experience, take a quick time out and check in with yourself. Is your mind drifting? Are you trying to rush your body? Once you center yourself, feel free to try again.